The holidays can be a time of warmth and joy, but for families caring for a loved one with dementia, they can also bring unique challenges. As routines change and homes fill with festivities, it’s important to approach the season thoughtfully to ensure it’s enjoyable for everyone, including those with cognitive impairments. Here are some practical tips for families to ensure a smooth and joyful holiday season.
The hustle and bustle of the holidays can be overwhelming for someone with dementia. Dr. Alice Langholt, a dementia care expert, advises, "Keep celebrations low-key to avoid overwhelming your loved one. A smaller, quieter gathering is often more enjoyable than a large, noisy party for someone with dementia."
Consider simplifying your traditions. Instead of a large gathering, a small family dinner might be less stressful. Decorations should be minimal to avoid confusion and maintain a calm environment.
Routine is crucial for people with dementia, and major disruptions can lead to confusion and agitation. "Try to keep to your loved one’s regular schedule as much as possible," suggests Dr. Jacob Torres, a neurologist specializing in dementia care. "This includes meal times, bedtime, and any regular activities they enjoy."
Even when incorporating holiday activities, try to do so in a way that feels natural and doesn't disrupt the usual daily routine too much.
Inclusion in holiday activities can help a person with dementia feel connected and valued. Opt for simple, safe activities that are within their capability to participate. This might include:
If you’re hosting family or friends, prepare them in advance about what to expect and how to interact with your loved one. Encourage them to engage in simple, direct conversations and to be patient if behaviors or responses seem unusual.
Ensure there's a quiet room or space where your loved one can retreat if things become too overwhelming. This can be a comforting space with familiar items, away from the noise and activity. Despite all the planning, be ready to adapt as needed. Monitor your loved one's mood and behavior closely, and be prepared to change plans if they seem distressed or uncomfortable.
Caring for a loved one with dementia during the holidays doesn't have to be a source of stress. With some preparation and modified expectations, you can create a festive atmosphere that includes everyone in the joy of the season.